Why Willpower Doesn’t Work: The Key to Creating Habits that Stick

I used to think I just needed more willpower. More discipline. More motivation. But I’ve learned (the hard way) that none of those are reliable long term. So I’m trying something different.

For the next 30 days, I’m committing to 10 minutes of tidying up every day. Not because I love cleaning, but because I want to build a habit of consistency.

(this is my aspiration—not what my current desk looks like)

The Science Behind It

According to a study published in the European Journal of Social Psychology, it takes an average of 66 days to form a new habit—but the key isn’t sheer will. It’s environmental cues, repeated action, and emotional reward.

James Clear, author of Atomic Habits, emphasizes that “You do not rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your systems.” In other words, you don’t need more willpower—you need a process.

Why This Matters

I struggle to stay consistent unless I truly commit and create space for it. So instead of expecting motivation to carry me, I’m anchoring my day in this simple 10-minute act. It’s manageable, repeatable, and meaningful.

Try This

• Pick one small habit that will make your life better.

• Commit to it for the next 30 days.

• Keep the bar low, but the intention high.

• Create visual cues or reminders. Put it on the calendar as an appointment with yourself.

• Celebrate your wins (even the small ones).

Join Me

What will you commit to? Drop it in the comments, or start your own 30-day challenge. Let’s create space—not pressure—for lasting change.

Ready to Build a Life That Aligns with Who You Really Are?

If you want to create lasting change—from the inside out—check out our UnshakableMe® Foundations programs. This isn’t just about habits. It’s about reclaiming your inner power, rewriting limiting beliefs, and aligning your thoughts, choices, and actions with the life you truly want to live.

Take The First Step